“We need more balance in our lives” is something we have heard for years and throughout the the media. This term typically refers to women, working moms, career women trying to do and have it all, right?


Well, we have been fed a lie. That we CAN have balance and NEED it in our lives.

(Bare with me this is a long post because you've gotta hear this!)


By definition “Balance” means “a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions”, which is not intended to be applied to “balance” in one’s life.


To do two things simultaneously and equally efficient, is actually IMPOSSIBLE!


You may think, well it is physically possible to do two things, Michelle. I can walk and talk or sing and drive at the same time.


But have you ever noticed how when you need to fully concentrate, say in the car when you are lost and looking for directions; you may lower the radio?


Or when you are walking and talking but then need to focus on the important key point you are trying to make to your boss; you will stop walking?


The term “balance” when pertaining to women’s lives was first introduced in the public mainstream in the 1980’s when women began to take over the American corporate work force.


By nature, humans, are not able to equally distribute our “elements in correct proportions”. The word balance is a noun, it is a “thing”. It should not be used to describe a human behavior.


It’s better to say that we as women need to practice the act of “BALANCING” which is a verb and an action we can do in our lives.


I want you to no longer say “I need more balance in my life”, what we need to shift our mindset to say “I am actively balancing my priorities by valuing myself as a priority”.


Have you ever noticed that on Airplanes during the introductory safety drill, the flight attendant says “in case of an emergency, place the oxygen mask over yourself before assisting children or others”.


We can not help the ones we love in our lives if we do not take care of ourselves first.


Since practicing more self love and self care for myself, my business has grown beyond my dreams, my relationship with my boyfriend is stronger than ever, and I have more energy and motivation for everyone. I’ve created healthy habits that will carry on throughout my life so I can one day care for my family and my clients with all of my self. A happier, healthier, more confident version all from showing myself a little love too.


The Dali Lama once said “ The world will be saved by the Western Woman”.



If we take care of ourselves, we have more of ourselves to give. We can volunteer, create companies that change the world, raise children that are mindful and respectful of our world and humanity.